It may be too late for me to start being rebellion, but my life has turned in a way I wasn't expecting.
My parents "split up" when I was like, four, but lived together forever. They still shared the same room up until I was...13 maybe? I can't remember really. And then my mom finally moved out my junior year of high school.
Which is fine, she needed to get away for her own health and ours and what not.
I don't hold ANY of that- her moving away- against her at all.
And then she found Will, my basically step dad and she's happy. Which is awesome.
I always told my dad that I wanted him to be happy and find a new wife. But he always put me and James (my brother) first and said he wanted to worry about us and worry about his stuff later.
Which I respect.
However, as of about 3 weeks ago, my dad decided to tell me he's been seeing someone. Which I was shocked, but happy for him. However, when he told me he's been seeing her for months, my smile died instantly.
I thought me and my dad had a great relationship. I've told him basically everything in my life, (things worth telling, ya know) and I thought he's told me about everything worth telling. But when he decided not to tell me about his relationship that's been going on for months, I get PISSED.
And I feel horrible for being so mad, but I have issues with people holding things from me. Like big things that I feel like I deserve to know. I don't go around demanding information about everyone's lives, but when I'm close with them, I like to know.
And he's my freaking dad.
And so then, when I say how angry I was, my mom comes out and tells me that I have no excuse to be mad at him and that he's an adult and can do whatever he wants.
Well, that went over well.
But basically, since I'm home for the week from school, I figured the subject would come up again about the woman. I was just out getting some coffee with Molly when my dad texted me and said that the woman was at our house if I wanted to meet her. And I texted back that I didn't know if I wanted to really.
So when I got home and saw her car still in the driveway, I just walked into the house and bee-lined it for my room without saying or looking at anyone. Then dad came into my room all pissed that I didn't even say hello to her and introduce myself (I've never met her yet).
Tonight basically ended in me and him fighting and both of us crying.
Now I think I'll go out there and hug my dad and go to bed.
We'll see how things end up.
I love you. Feel free to text or call me whenever.
ReplyDeleteThanks. <3 I love you too. I'm suuuper excited to see you and just rant about life. lol.
ReplyDeleteAnd just an update, I went out and hugged him, and he started crying and saying he was sorry and didn't want our relationship to go badly like it had been going ever since he told me. So, we're on the road to getting better. I hope.
You are misquoting me, IMO. I didn't say that.
ReplyDeleteI didn't say you had no excuse to be mad. I did say that yes, he does have the right to keep some things private and not tell you every single thing going on, especially if it's emotionally sensitive. He's an adult. He isn't obligated to share his romantic and/or sex life with you; it's personal until he decides it isn't, IMO.
If you want to be mad, you can be mad. That's your right as a human.
I do stand by my opinion (and yes, it is just my opinion, doesn't mean it's law or anything) that he has the right to keep parts of his life private. Everyone does.
Seeing someone is a HUGE step for Dad and he was very emotionally fragile about it, IMO. I think waiting to say anything about it until he was ready was a very healthy move for him.
I'm proud of him for moving forward and taking steps for himself to do it in a way that he felt safe and comfortable with. I'm delighted he's found someone he likes and that he is bringing more joy into his life.
I'm also sorry you were upset, emotional and that you guys fought. I know that always tears you up. I love you and I'm here if you want to vent/talk or w/e.